Virtual in seattle and across washingtonYou’re self-aware. Your dating life hasn’t gotten the memo.
Dating and relationship anxiety therapy for women navigating anxious attachment, unhealthy relationship patterns, and dating challenges. Virtual therapy in Seattle and throughout Washington State.
You’ve done the self reflection. So why are we still doing this?
You're confident, capable, and usually pretty good at trusting your judgment. Then someone you like takes six hours to text back, and suddenly you're conducting a full investigation with the group chat.
Sound familiar?
That's the frustrating thing about relationship anxiety and anxious attachment. You can be self-aware, successful, and emotionally intelligent, yet still find yourself overthinking texts, questioning someone's interest, or falling into the same dating patterns you swore you'd never repeat.
ＸYou want to stop
Replaying conversations like you’re reviewing evidence.
Getting attached to potential instead of reality
Ignoring your needs to keep someone interested
Letting dating anxiety call the shots
✓ And you want to start
Feeling secure even when dating feels uncertain
Setting boundaries without second guessing yourself
Recognizing patterns without repeating them
Trusting yourself in dating and relationships
If you’re nodding along, you’re in the right place.
You know the pattern, let’s actually change it!
Being self-aware is great. But knowing why you overthink, get attached quickly, or second-guess yourself doesn't automatically make those feelings disappear. Your attachment patterns didn't develop overnight, and they aren't something you can simply think your way out of.
In therapy, we'll explore where those patterns began, why certain relationship dynamics feel so familiar, and what happens when dating uncertainty sends your nervous system into overdrive. I'll help you connect the dots, challenge old beliefs, and build practical skills to navigate dating with more confidence and self-trust.
The goal isn’t just to understand your patterns. It’s to stop letting them run your love life.
Virtual therapy for relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, and more.
I offer online therapy for women in Seattle and throughout Washington State, specializing in:
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Dating & relationship anxiety
Dating & Relationship Anxiety
When one unanswered text sends your brain into detective mode. Let's understand the anxiety, break familiar patterns, and make dating feel less like an emotional roller coaster.
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Self-worth & boundaries
Self-Worth & Boundaries
You give excellent advice about boundaries. Following your own? A little trickier. Let's work on expressing your needs without guilt or fear of losing connection.
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Anxiety & feeling "stuck"
Anxiety & Feeling Stuck
You've analyzed every possible outcome. Twice. Let's get you out of your head, understand what's keeping you stuck, and build confidence in yourself.
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Breaking the same dating patterns
Dating and Attachment Patterns
Different person. Same emotional roller coaster. Sound familiar? Let's explore why certain dynamics keep showing up and how to stop falling into familiar patterns.
Meet Kaleigh Pettis, MS, LMFT
Hi, I’m Kaleigh!Supportive? Absolutely. A yes-woman? Not so much.
I'm a Seattle-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship anxiety, dating anxiety, anxious attachment, and those frustrating relationship patterns that seem to have a mind of their own!
You know that friend who gives incredible dating advice but somehow struggles to follow her own? Yeah, we should probably talk.
My approach is warm, collaborative, and refreshingly direct. Think supportive big-sister energy, backed by attachment theory and over a decade of clinical experience.
I'll validate your feelings, celebrate your wins, and make space for the messy stuff. But I'll also lovingly challenge you when you're ignoring your needs, rationalizing mixed signals, or talking yourself out of what you already know.
Not because I'm judging you. Because I believe understanding your patterns is only the beginning. The real work is learning how to respond differently.
We'll connect the dots between your past and present, explore why certain relationship dynamics feel so familiar, and build practical skills to help you navigate dating with more confidence and self-trust.
Because knowing better and doing differently are two very different things.
How It Works
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Let’s Talk
You've made it this far, so we might as well meet.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation where we'll chat about what's bringing you to therapy, what you're hoping to change, and whether we're a good fit..
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Okay, Let’s Do This
If we're a good match, we'll schedule your first virtual therapy session and start getting to know you, your story, and the patterns that brought you here.
You don't need to have everything figured out before we begin. That's kind of the point.
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Let’s Do Things Differently
Here's where self-awareness meets actual change.
We'll connect the dots, challenge familiar patterns, and practice responding differently when dating and relationships bring up old fears.
Because understanding why you do something is great. Learning how to stop doing it? Even better.
Frequently Asked Questions
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I see clients exclusively online (telehealth), which means I can work with women anywhere in Washington State, not just Seattle. Sessions happen over a secure, private video platform from wherever you’re comfortable.
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Individual therapy sessions are $300 per session.
Therapy is an investment in yourself, and I believe you deserve to know exactly what to expect before getting started. We'll go over fees, scheduling, and any questions you have during your free 15-minute consultation.
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I'm an out-of-network provider and don't bill insurance directly. Depending on your plan, you may be eligible for reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits.
I can provide a superbill for you to submit to your insurance company. I recommend contacting your insurer before starting therapy to understand your benefits.
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I have a 48-hour cancellation policy. Please provide at least 48 hours' notice if you need to cancel or reschedule your appointment. Sessions canceled outside that window may be subject to the full session fee, in accordance with your signed practice agreement.
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That's exactly what the consultation is for.
You don't need to know your attachment style, have your entire relationship history figured out, or arrive with a perfectly organized list of problems.
We'll talk about what's going on, what you're hoping to change, and whether working together feels like a good fit.
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I specialize in relationship anxiety, dating anxiety, anxious attachment, relationship patterns, boundaries, and self-trust.
If you're great at recognizing your patterns but struggle to actually change them, you're in the right place. We'll work on understanding what's happening beneath the surface and building the skills to approach dating and relationships differently.
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My practice focuses on women navigating dating and relationship challenges, including straight, lesbian, bisexual, and queer women. I provide an affirming space to explore attachment, connection, and relationships.
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Getting started is easy! Schedule a free 15-minute consultation or reach out through my contact form.
We'll chat about what's bringing you to therapy, what you're hoping to change, and whether we're a good fit to work together. No pressure, no commitment. Just a chance to connect and see if we're a match.
You know the pattern. Ready to change it?
You've done enough overthinking, second-guessing, and trying to figure it all out alone. It's time to turn that self-awareness into healthier relationship patterns, stronger boundaries, and more confidence in your dating life.
You don't have to figure it all out before you begin!